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There are no trans end games
When you start your transition you try to imagine a future where you affirmed gender simply is, without any trans issues hanging over your head. You see this version of yourself in the mind’s eye, an evolution of where you begin and where you hope to end up. This person you actual end up as may be that version of yourself, or you might grow into someone who your younger self may not recognise. When we talk about trans life in the abstract there is this end game assumption that transition is the goal, when in fact it is the living of life that is the true purpose. There are no trans end games because only death is the end game, it is living your best life that is the purpose of coming out.
This matters because those who oppose trans rights and trans healthcare only see the process, not the outcome. They see trans lives as facsimiles because they see bodies and lives as written by society, not as being affirmed by individuals. Often trans narratives revolve around the past self, the fact that transition has happened, rather than being in the moment or looking to the future. There is an assumption that the past is an anchor, a reference point, that will always define a trans person. In framing trans live this ways of course the end game is affirmed gender, yet this misses the overarching drive to simply be that all trans folk have.
